How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love
by Logan Ury
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Emphasizing that a love relationship is something you “build,” not something you “discover,” the author does a mock-coaching section with the show’s host, Ali Abdaal, to help break down where people go wrong in their dating searches. She also cautions against looking for a “spark” and urges people to go on a minimum of two dates—unless something disastrous happens on the first—because people are often nervous on a first date and don’t show their true selves.
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The author sets out to bust three dating myths: the “spark,” the “type” and the “happily ever after.” She explains, for example, that feeling a spark when you meet someone probably just means that the person is more charismatic or “sparky” than most and that anyone meeting them would feel the same. She suggests that you go for the “slow burn,” over the spark; that is, a person who takes longer to get to know but turns out to be a great partner in the end.
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Author Logan Ury gives live interview on CBS Mornings
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Sitting down with the CBS Mornings crew, the author observes that we are born knowing how to love but we are not born knowing how to date. Therefore, in spite of the fact that love is natural, a love relationship is something that we have to work at and build. She says there are three main types of daters but what they have in common is “unrealistic expectations.” She also advises the audience to look for a life partner, not a prom date, and to avoid looking to feel “a spark.”
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Los Angeles Times: How to date — pandemic or not — from “Hinge” romance scientist Logan Ury
USA Today: Single? A new book wants to tell you 'How to Not Die Alone'
National Public Radio: 'How to Not Die Alone' author on modern dating
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