Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success
by Adam M. Grant
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Grant teaches the audience how to recognize givers, takers, and matchers (those who give and take equally) and how each influences company culture, team dynamics, and eventual success or failure. He says givers are prone to burnout; the key to a successful business that includes givers is to make it okay for them to ask for help as well as offering it. That is, givers make an organization better but sacrifice themselves in the process and should be protected in order to preserve their positive influence.
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In every interaction, we can choose to be either a giver, a taker, or a matcher (giving and taking in equal measure). However, we each have a default mode that kicks in when we meet someone new. Grant set out to discover which mode leads to clear success and/or failure. Successful givers ask three questions before giving: why, when, and for whom? He found that givers who have a strong “why” avoid the burnout of givers who give out of obligation or without clarity.
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“Givers” look to help those around them and are typically averse to asking for help in return. “Takers” are the opposite. Most of us fall not at either extreme but are “matchers,” expecting favors in return for those that we give. The work of givers can suffer from spending too much time helping others; for example, a study of medical students found that the givers had the lowest grades, suggesting that the most competent doctors may not be the most altruistic.
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