B.F.F.: A Memoir of Friendship Lost and Found
by Christie Tate
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Author appears on WGN’s Morning News to talk about friendship
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Jan, 2023
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The author shares that she was never good at forming and maintaining friendships with other women, starting in elementary school. In her twenties, feeling pressure to find a romantic partner, she put the friendships she did have on the back burner. She eventually built up her friend-making skills and is grateful that she had friends to help her survive the pandemic, when she was in lockdown and suddenly home-schooling her children. She wanted to write the book for other women who may devalue female friendships.
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Author in conversation with novelist Megan McCafferty
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Feb, 2023
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Christie Tate gives the audience a taste of friendships at various stages of life, from elementary school to the law office. A breakup of a friendship can be every bit as painful and worthy of grief as a romantic breakup, even when it happens due to a move or a change of schools. Tate describes the origins and development of her most important adult friendship, detailed in the book, and also makes some observations, now that she is a mother, about her children’s friendships.
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