8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go
by Jay Shetty
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Calling love “one of the most underestimated skills in the world,” former monk and popular podcaster Jay Shetty sits down with Mel Robbins to share his thoughts. He says he wanted to bring the “language of skills” to love because it is too often talked about in an ethereal way. Noting that many of us enter relationships because we’re scared to be alone, he suggests focusing on who we are becoming, on what our passions and dislikes are, rather than thinking about the type of partner we’d like to have.
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Author gives love advice in talking-head format
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Author Jay Shetty shares that if you type the words “Will I ever” into a Google search, it fills in “find love.” This common question is what most represents our anxiety and fear about the future. But ironically, this very anxiety causes us to make poor decisions on the road to love. The author notes that love does not arrive “fully formed” but is something we build. As such, he suggests “practicing love” instead of waiting for love to find us.
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