“I still felt I needed to fit a profile in which my skin color was my only difference, and not one of many.”
“The Token Black Girl is characterized mostly by her proximity to her white peers and her nonthreatening and friendly nature.”
“I oscillated between the complicated desire to be both visible (wanting to see myself and imagine who I could be) and invisible (in that there was no real difference between me and the people who surrounded me).”
“Apparently, it is too difficult for people—white people—to imagine themselves as embodied by a Black character, but Black children are forced to do the reverse constantly.”
“White supremacy exerts a stranglehold over every culture that is not exclusively white and flattens Blackness, producing a mythic monolith of Black culture, one that commands there is a singular way to be Black.”
“Planting a seed of doubt that erodes a Black person’s self-esteem is a classic tactic of white supremacy.”
“How much pain you can withstand should not be the barometer of how successful you can become.”
“It is not enough to simply declare insecurities without trying to figure out their source because—I promise you—they will keep coming back up. We have to learn to live with them, and to make space for others to do the same.”
“I look back at my life and worry that so many of my personal relationships have failed because there was always something huge missing. That missing thing was me—me being my actual self instead of a fake robot who just wants to please everyone.”
“After a lot of podcasts, retreats, and therapy, I’ve learned if we’re ever going to get anywhere, we have to shed shame.”
“Diversify what you watch and consume, especially if you are white. Do not feel threatened if Black women are celebrating themselves; join in.”
The Washington Post: How does it feel to be a ‘Token Black Girl’? A new memoir explains
Marie Claire: The honesty does not let up…A memoir you won’t soon forget